This week, The LGBT, specifically the Transgender community has been receiving an abundance of love in Media. Chanel announced early this week their first-ever Trans model following The Razor – shaving product, Gillette latest AD that featured a father helping his transgender son, Activist Samson Brown, shave and giving him confidence while doing so.
But the love grew even greater, especially for the Black Trans Community, when 51-year old Actor Malik Yoba, who we all remember as Detective Williams from the 90’s hit show, New York Undercover and currently on the FOX show, Empire, came out to declare his love for Trans women.
‘Down Low’ was a term created for men who dated other men but kept it a secret because they were afraid to come out as a gay man. This Actor, whether he was or wasn’t ‘Down Low’ in the past, presently, he is out, open and proud and we are here for it!
Malik Yoba was not afraid about sharing his sexuality to his 200K+ followers and felt gratitude for all the support he had been receiving after making the announcement that he was a CIS Heterosexual man learning what it means to be attracted to trans women. He stated on his Instagram post “Thank you @bet and all others who have spread this message of hope that it is ok to be who the F*CK you are no matter what other ppl say as long as you ain’t hurting nobody. Fear and shame should not be our gods.”
A few days before this post, Malik shared a video of Maurice Willoughby who was 20 and had recently died by suicide after a video went viral of him saying he slept with Trans women. This heartbreaking incident is what ultimately encouraged Malik to share his attraction to trans women saying they deserved love and respect too. He shared how Black men are told that loving trans women is not OK and he himself has felt the self-shame that comes along with the truth of loving trans women and now was the time to speak up.
For this reason, Malike will host a workshop called, Love and Trauma: The Trans Experience in Washington D.C September 27- 28, 2019, for the National Trans Visibility March.
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Happy Labor Day Fam!! 💙❤️ Thank you all who have reached out to me with love and support over the last 24 hours. Thank you @bet and all others who have spread this message of hope that it is ok to be who the FUCK you are no matter what other ppl say as long as you ain’t hurting nobody. Fear and shame should not be our gods. Freedom and love of all of HUMAN-ity should be the order of the day! SEE YOU IN DC FOR @transmarchondc AND Love + Trauma : The Trans Experience. Go to site for all upcoming details 🙏🏾🏳️🌈🤟🏾
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ATTENTION BLACK AND ALL MEN!!! THIS IS NOT OK!!!!! This video is another heartbreaking example of the homophobia, transphobia hatred and hypocrisy WE as black folks, BLACK MEN in particular have to NAME , FACE and CALL OUT and do the work to heal!!! THIS IS EXACTLY WHY I WILL BE AT @transmarchondc 🏳️🌈hosting a workshop called LOVE + TRAUMA: The Trans Experience on Sept 27 2019 ( details TBD ) His name was Maurice “Reese” Willoughby, a 20 yr old baby who killed himself from an apparent drug overdose after his girlfriend left him due to abuse. Clearly as evidenced in this video this young man was confident in his choice to love who he loved but the uninformed young men around him haven’t been taught BY US that love is love and acceptance of Trans love is ok and bullying has nothing to do with masculinity or HETEROSEXUAL behavior. Ultimately his mental and emotional health was not intact enough and the fragility of his life as he saw it was too much to bear. Often times this type of shame and ridicule can lead to the murders of women of the trans experience . NOT OK!! Clearly he didn’t get the support of his peers who think that toxicity = masculinity and humanity. That being a “real man” means we must disrespect and demean those that FIND themselves attracted to women of the trans experience. The fact that he was trans attracted presumably meant that he had no safe space to go to find the support he needed to learn to navigate love of a woman of the trans experience in a world that constantly tells you you’re wrong. TRANS PEOPLE DESERVE LOVE AND RESPECT AS DO THOSE OF US THAT LOVE THEM!! I love ALL women AND count MYSELF among those that find themselves trans attracted and I too have felt the self imposed shame that comes with that truth but it’s time to speak up. It is NOT about GENITALIA OR SEX but about attraction to the soul and humanity of an individual and often the beauty that is in the courage and conviction to live ones truth! As a self identified cis heterosexual man I too am learning what it means to be trans attracted. Many of us famous and otherwise that have struggled with accepting our attraction so we do NOTHING. This MUST change 🙏🏾
There have been many male celebrities who have been rumored to be gay or on the “Down Low”. Chingy, Eddie Murphy, and LL Cool J or just to name a few.